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  • wello
    wello
    4 years ago
    so i woke up this morning to some sad news from the uk ,  my mother inherited a step son when she remarried , he himself has a wife who has just lost both her parents to this virus .. father first one week ago and now the mother last nite .. cant even imagine how his wife must be feeling right now and to make matters even worse they both now have to be isolated away from the rest of the family and everyone else.. now my mother is panic striken as she is quite old and is stuck in the house with her husband who has bad dementia.
    its an extremely hard one to deal with .. you want to go see them but dont dare take the chance that you could possibly pass on this virus.

  • steelo
    steelo
    4 years ago
    Very sorry to hear Wello.
  • Soapbox2627
    Soapbox2627
    4 years ago
    Skype or messanger, they both have video
  • JFE
    JFE
    4 years ago
    Bloody hell. Sorry to hear that Wello. Hard times for all involved.
  • bloodog
    bloodog
    4 years ago
    Puts things in to perspective here in Australia, so sorry to hear 
    Your mums know how you feel and the limitations involved Wello
  • Ratbob
    Ratbob
    4 years ago
    Hey Wello, I just posted a reply but it seems to have vanished. Sort of it duplicated. 
    Mate, all you can do is maintain contact. Visit even if it’s outside the front door. (Like a chat over the fence)
    During the last 15 months or so looking after my wife with brain cancer has taught me a bit.
    I’m usually a private guy but I’ve found solace from people I wouldn’t have counted as close friends, keeping in touch, it’s meant a lot.
    Sounds silly bit my Mum, dealing with my Dad with dementia would call her next door neighbor also dealing with her hubby with dementia and they’d talk for hours, even had pee and tea stops! But it got them through. 
    So if you know of any friends she can tie up with, it might be useful.
    Also there are many State based services available.
    Not sure what’s available in your state but please PM if needed. 
    Cheers man, good on ya, it ain’t easy.
  • wello
    wello
    4 years ago
    Quoting Ratbob on 03 Apr 2020 08:35 AMedited: 03 Apr 2020 08:38 AM

    Hey Wello, I just posted a reply but it seems to have vanished. Sort of it duplicated. 

    Mate, all you can do is maintain contact. Visit even if it’s outside the front door. (Like a chat over the fence)
    During the last 15 months or so looking after my wife with brain cancer has taught me a bit.
    I’m usually a private guy but I’ve found solace from people I wouldn’t have counted as close friends, keeping in touch, it’s meant a lot.
    Sounds silly bit my Mum, dealing with my Dad with dementia would call her next door neighbor also dealing with her hubby with dementia and they’d talk for hours, even had pee and tea stops! But it got them through. 
    So if you know of any friends she can tie up with, it might be useful.
    Also there are many State based services available.
    Not sure what’s available in your state but please PM if needed. 
    Cheers man, good on ya, it ain’t easy.

    yeh cheers guys for the replies im fine , its the old folk i worry about .. my mother is in the uk so its her i worry about, i have a brother and a sister over there to look out for her so its not all bad but i do worry about her mental state being stuck in a house with someone who has no idea whats going on in the world, let alone cant even communicate as he doesnt even know what he is saying let alone anyone else . she has to constantly follow him around the house as he gets into everything.. what she used to maybe find mildy amusing is now a constant nightmare for her, all the help she had has now come to a stop .. im sure there are plenty of other people around the world that are as bad or even more worse off .. and i for one was a a bit blase about the whole corona virus thing to start with and i never really sat down and thought about all the implications of it .. and now here we are in this situation ,fk me what a mess !!!
  • keith
    keith
    4 years ago
    Sorry to hear that Wello, we all are getting to see and hear some disturbing and distressing news daily. We are in a better situation than most in Australia I feel ? Keep the chin up old mate.
  • Baloffski
    Baloffski
    4 years ago
    Thats bad news wello, but at least you know you have siblings there to keep an eye on them and their needs.
    Found it's good to talk about the situation to others, as suggestions and advice is good to receive even if you don't heed it.
    Good luck with the situation mate. 

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